Blindfold Sex Rocks!

I want to tell you about a sex toy that works — I mean, REALLY works!

And I guarantee you’ve already got one in your house.

I’m talking about a blindfold.

Seriously, it can help you drive your woman absolutely INSANE with ground-shaking orgasms. She’ll feel like she’s plugged into a wall socket.

Every sensory cell in her body will be on high alert — primed and waiting to be touched, caressed, kissed, licked, pinched, nibbled on, and penetrated by you…

And every sudden, unexpected touch will send sexual shockwaves through her body like an unstoppable tsunami. Here’s why:

When she can’t see what’s about to happen, her imagination takes over. She becomes hyper-aware, hyper-sensitive…and hyper-sexual!

And all you need is a scarf, a necktie, or pretty much any piece of cloth.

BUT, I must warn you…

Don’t just dive into blindfolded sex… until you’ve agreed on a couple of ground rules up-front:

  1. She needs to feel safe. After all, she’s putting her complete trust in your hands. So, you’ve gotta reassure her that if she doesn’t like it, you’ll stop.

  2. The first time you try it, keep it at least somewhat familiar. Save your freaky fantasies until she’s totally comfortable with the blindfold.

Seriously, it can help you drive your woman absolutely INSANE with ground-shaking orgasms.


Okay, let’s begin…

Once you’ve got her blindfolded… start with something you know she likes. This can be soft kiss, or maybe a little ear or neck nibbling. The point is to help her relax….

But don’t confuse this with being predictable.

If you always start at Point A, then move to Point B, and finish off with Point C, change it up! You want to surprise her, keep her off guard — make her frantic with anticipation.

So, after that first kiss or nibble, surprise her with an unexpected move: Reach down and lightly drag your fingernails up her inner thigh, from her knee ALMOST to her pussy lips.

She’ll feel like her sexual circuits have suddenly been overloaded.

Then, while she’s reeling from this overload, touch her mound gently so she’ll think you’re clitward-bound… then quickly divert your attention elsewhere.

Move randomly from one hotspot to another, caressing, stroking, licking, and kissing every one.

And every so often, back off and leave her waiting for a few seconds. It’ll drive her nuts, wondering what’s next.

Think of it as creating an orgasm brew: You’re stirring up all her hot spots and gradually bringing them all to a boil.

And once you have her BEGGING to cum… use your mouth, fingers, or cock to give her that monster orgasm she’s been starving for.

ADVANCED TIP: Try all of this while she’s standing up!

For one thing, you’ll have access to those erogenous areas on her backside — behind her knee, on her back, around her shoulders and neck, and just above her ass cheeks. (Maybe she’ll even let you surprise her with a little ass-play.)

And when you remove her from the familiar comfort of the soft bed… her senses will be even MORE cranked up. When she cums, she’ll feel so satisfied and drained…

For once, SHE might be the one to pass out after sex!

Now, before I go, let me address a question that may have popped up in your mind…

What if she wants to blindfold you?

All I can say is keep an open mind — and let yourself go, man! You’re gonna love it as much as she did. Think about it…

You know that rush you feel when you know she’s about to put her mouth on your cock?

Your breath quickens, your brain is exploding with feel-good hormones. Your entire body is shivering from head to toe with anticipation

Well, it’s TWICE as intense when you’re blindfolded, dude!

So, what are you waiting for? You really need to try this at home — tonight. I guarantee you, it’ll blow you away.

Then use the “Comments” link to tell me how much you both enjoyed it. Or if you’ve got some of your own favorite kinky pleasures, feel free to tell me about them.

And btw: It’s not just fun for the one who’s blindfolded — being in control is a huge turn-on, too. Sexual arousal is contagious!

How to Body Surf At Home


I’ve got a brand-new illustrated sex position for you today.

Now, I know some of you will just scroll down to check it out… but first I want to tell you the true story of how it came to be.

A few years ago, my girlfriend and I were on vacation in the Outer Banks — the string of barrier islands off the coast of North Carolina.

The beaches are spectacular, and there’s a lot of really cool history in the area, too.

For instance, Blackbeard the pirate was killed there in 1718.

And in 1903, the Wright Brothers made their historic flight in the sand dunes at Kill Devil Hill, near Kitty Hawk.

We used to visit the Outer Banks when I was a kid. And I always thought it was pretty awesome to stand on the same sand where Blackbeard and the Wright Brothers may have walked.

But Jennie and I were there for the sun, the sand, the water — and some vacation sex, of course.

Within an hour of arriving, we were at the beach and getting into some serious body surfing. For me, body surfing blurs the line between man and nature — I feel like I become part of the ocean’s energy.

Well, for the next four hours we rode one awesome wave after another, and sunbathed on the beach. When the air started turning cool, we packed up our towels and headed back to town.

By the time we reached our hotel, we were ready to crash. We took a quick shower together, then plopped down on the bed side by side — exhausted and naked.

But there’s something irresistible about a beautiful, naked woman in bed beside me, no matter how tired I am.

So I made a tentative move, to see how she’d respond.

Jennie responded with, “I’m sorry, babe, but I’m not up for anything right now. I’ve barely got enough energy to pass out!”

“Don’t worry, you won’t have to move a muscle, I promise.”

She turned and gave me that wicked smile of hers. “Well, I might have to move a few muscles….”

So I came up with this awesome position on the spot, just by following my instincts. It’s called The Body Surfer.

Body surfer

How To Try The Body Surfer:

Have your woman lie face-down on the bed or floor, with her legs slightly parted and her upper body resting on her forearms.

Position yourself between her legs, with your upper body supported by your arms, then slide inside her. You’ll be hitting her clit and her G-spot with every thrust, so you can go at a slower, more relaxed pace and still get a great response.

Or you can drive her crazy with a variety of surprise thrusts — shallow, deep, stop-and-go, or steady jackhammer. She can’t see your face, so she can’t tell what your next move will be.

Wanna turn up the heat a little more? Have her close her legs, with you straddling her as you enter.

This not only increases friction and intensifies the stimulation — it also lets you increase that incredible flesh-on-flesh contact.

Why You’ll BOTH Love The Body Surfer:

For starters, it doesn’t require superhuman strength or the ability to contort yourselves into pretzels.

And all that flesh-on-flesh contact stimulates tons of sensitive nerve endings on her back, her inner thighs, and her ass. And you’re getting that same jolt, from your chest to your toes.

Since she’s lying on her stomach, she can easily position herself so the underside of your shaft glides along her clit — just the way she wants it.

And with that special rear-entry angle, every thrust ends with a direct hit on her G-spot.

As for you, a lot of your body weight is resting on her. That saves your energy for as much hard, steady drilling as she needs.

You also get excellent blood flow down there, to keep you good and hard.

So, surf’s up! Come on, try The Body Surfer for yourself — tonight. You’ll understand what it really means to become “one” with your woman.

Then post your comments here to let me know what you think about it. I know you’re gonna love it, man.


P.S. I wanna do another informal survey because I’m dying to know the answer to this question: “What’s your favorite ‘finishing’ position?” You can reply with a one-word answer (e.g., doggy-style, girl-on-top) – that’s all it takes. I want some data from the field!!!!

Santa Is One Dirty Old Man (depraved XXXmas card!)


If you want a high-resolution, poster-size image of this XXX-mas card, email me at: and I’ll send it to you!

Merry Christmas,


P.S. Make sure to leave some comments below! And send this link to your buddies who might appreciate such stimulating and high-brow artwork!

How About a Little Vampire Sex?


Since it’s almost Halloween, I thought I’d show you how to cum like Count Dracula!

Seriously, vampires are freakin’ sexy, right? In fact, they’re pretty much the ultimate super-sexual supernatural beings.

The hypnotic control they have over beautiful young women, the sensual biting of the neck, the sexy clothing, the act of complete submission — the whole vampire mythos is pure, hot sex!

Well, as you probably know, Dracula is based on a real person: Vlad III — also known as Vlad Dracula and Vlad the Impaler. He was ruler of a country called Wallachia, which was next to — I’m totally serious — Transylvania.

And Vlad was one bad dude! In fact, he was such a ruthless leader and killed so many of his enemies — often by impaling them — that some of them started the rumor that he drank human blood.

Well, thanks to hundreds of books, movies, and television shows, the brutal Vlad the Impaler has gradually morphed into the irresistible neck-biter he is today — who always seems to have a bunch of hot babes in see-through nightgowns under his spell.

Yeah, vampires are cool!

And that brings me to another one of my favorite go-to positions — one that really lets me get maximum penetration. And in honor of the inspiration for Count Dracula, I call it Vlad the Impaler.

Vlad the Impaler

The main advantage of this position for you is that it gives you TOTAL dominance and control over your woman. And it gives you maximum penetration power.

And she’ll love it because it gives her clit a good workout — as you slide in and out, AND when you penetrate her to the hilt.

Here’s how to try the Vlad the Impaler position:

Position your “virgin” about 2 feet from a wall. Stand behind her, then bend her over forward until she can brace herself with her hands against the wall.

Next, grab one of her legs and pull it back toward you, then raise it up as high as you can — if she’s limber enough, you can rest her leg on your shoulder.

Now, drive in and out of her HARD until you hear her screams of orgasm!

I know you’re gonna love this one. And there’s no reason to wait until October 31 to try Vlad the Impaler. In fact, I want you to try it out tonight and then leave a comment to tell me how much you liked it.

And as usual, please use the “Comments” section to leave me any of your thoughts, ideas, or suggestions.

Happy Halloween!


P.S. You can also use the comments section to ask me any questions related to men’s sexuality, men’s health, or anything else that’s on your mind.

How many calories do you burn during sex?


Today I thought I’d send you another quick sex quiz. And I think the answer’s gonna surprise you.

Q: How many calories do men burn in an average sex session?

  1. 100
  2. 200
  3. 350
  4. 500

A: 100 calories. It’s true: Your best sexual performance will only burn off about 100 calories, according to researchers at the University of Quebec at Montreal.

That’s based on a guy of average weight, using missionary position sex for 30 minutes, including foreplay.

Now, sex is all about pleasure, right? But if you want ‘burning calories’ to be a side benefit of great sex, there are a few things you can do to make it more of a workout.

The obvious first thing is ENDURANCE. The longer you go, the more you’ll burn. For example, if you last just 15 minutes, you’ll only burn about 75 calories. But if you’re into marathon sex, you can expect to easily beat that 100 calorie mark.

And the position you choose can make a huge difference. For example, switching from missionary to reverse cowgirl cuts your calorie burn-off to a measly 56 calories!

But if you like your sex standing up: you’ll use 112 calories!


You’ll burn a lot more calories using a standing position instead of something like missionary or reverse cowgirl.

It’s pretty simple: You’ll burn more calories using standing, squatting, or bending positions than you will lying on your back, or resting most of your weight on top of your woman.

Now, if you REALLY want a workout, choose a position where you’ve gotta either move or lift all or most of her weight. For instance, stand by the edge of the bed, then have her lie on her back and raise her legs onto your shoulders.

But instead of using your basic pelvic thrusting, take her hips in your hands. Then lift her hips and pull her onto you, moving her back and forth. You’ll get a great upper-body workout. In fact, you might have to alternate pumping with sliding, because this is harder than it sounds.

If you’ve got great upper body strength, try the one that always looks so easy in the movies (but really makes sex a workout):

Standing, with her legs are wrapped around you while you support all her weight. That one’ll burn some calories! It’s okay to use the wall to support her back if you need to.

And whenever I get the chance, I love to screw in the water on a secluded beach (if I’ve brought a good lubricant that won’t wash off in the water). You get the thrill of semi-public sex, but it’s also a hell of a workout trying to maintain your balance, even in gentle waves.

Now, your level of ‘enthusiasm’ also determines how many calories you shed.

If your preferred pace is a slow and gentle ‘love me tender,’ you’ll use up less than 75 calories. But if you’re more of a ‘drill master,’ you’ll easily hit 100.

Here’s one last thing, which may or may not surprise you: The more you weigh, the more calories you’ll burn.

That’s right, if you’re in good shape and on the slim side, a round of intense, pull-out-all-the-stops sex isn’t much of a workout at all — and burns less than 80 calories.

But if you need to lose some poundage, try for a 30-minute, standing, full-speed-ahead sex workout — you’ll burn off an amazing 160 calories!

You know that I always stress the importance of having a healthy body so you can have a kick-ass sex life. Well, you can flip that around — and let incredible sex help you have a healthier and more fit body.

Please do me a favor and post your comments below. Do you like to make sex a workout? Or do you prefer the gain without the pain? Tell me what you think.


Top 3 Elements of the BEST Sex Positions


When I think about my favorite sex positions, they all have three things in common:

1) First, they allow total eye contact. It’s a huge boner-booster to look into your woman’s eyes during sex! It intensifies everything — the emotions, the energy, the spiritual connection — and best of all, the orgasm.

2) Next, I’ve gotta have easy access to her pussy and clit… Because as far as her pleasure goes, my hands and fingers are the next best thing to having my tongue down there.

3) And finally, I want to able to reach her breasts, so I can give her nipples a nice stimulating workout.

Give me those three “bonus features” — dude, I’m in heaven!

[Spoiler alert: I’ve included a new, super-hot position and picture for you below.]

Now, I also really like positions that let you easily ‘flow’ into other positions.

If you’re like me, sometimes you wanna switch it up in the heat of the moment and try something different — especially if what you’re trying isn’t working.

Well, The Horny Crab has got it all…

It gives you total clit-and-tit access… you’re looking right into each others’ eyes… it gives you flexibility to vary the action…

And you’ll cum like gangbusters!

Horny Crab

Now, to try the Horny Crab, start by sitting on the bed with your legs facing each other. Lean back slightly, using your arms for support.

Bend your knees, then move toward each other until you’re able to enter her.

You should both be in the same position: knees bent, legs slightly spread, with your feet alongside your partner’s body.

Now, start rockin’ ‘n’ rollin’! Think of ocean waves, dragging you back and forth. With both of you moving, a little action goes a long way.

If you wanna hit that clit, just lean forward a little and massage it with your fingers or thumb. And don’t forget to give her nipples the attention they need.

Between the rocking, pumping, massaging, and tweaking, you’ll be exploding in no time!

But if you decide to move into full-steam-ahead raw sex mode, you just take her arms, lie back, pull her up — and voila, you’re in The Cowgirl position!

Now she’s in total control…so she can grind and pump and ride her way to an explosive orgasm.

Or if you wanna be in the driver’s seat — maybe go into jackhammer mode — just reposition your legs so you’re on your knees…throw her legs over your shoulders…and start drilling!

I think you get the point: The Horny Crab is great as an appetizer or as a main course!

Trust me, you’ve gotta try it out for yourself. It’ll knock your socks off!

Be sure to let me know what you think of The Horny Crab in the comments section below

Or tell me about an unusual position that you’ve discovered — I might share it in an upcoming blog or newsletter.

Seriously, leave a comment below and tell me what you think!


P.P.S. I’m working on some surprises that you don’t want to miss. I’ll tell you about them in the next couple of weeks, so keep an eye out for my upcoming newsletters and blog posts.

A “Master Class” on Oral Sex

Now, I’ve always considered myself an expert at giving women oral sex.

In both my adult film career and my off-camera life, I’ve brought hundreds of women to climax through oral alone.

But I’m always excited by the opportunity to learn new techniques. That’s why I’m glad a few years ago, I got to do something most people don’t know even exists:

I took an oral sex class.  

And when I did, I was blown away by everything it turned out I didn’t know.

My oral sex instructor was Jeff Havens. He was hired by the head of one of the adult studios I worked for…

…to teach every performer under contract, guys and girls, how to properly go down on a woman.

“The guys out there watching, they want to see our girls come for real,” the boss said. “Dr. Havens’ll help you make sure they are.”

And you read that right:  Doctor Havens.

But Jeff wasn’t an expert in sexuality, or even anatomy.

He was a speech pathologist.

And he taught us the key to great oral sex technique:

Lips, jaws, and a tongue that are fit, practiced…and ready to go for as long it takes to deliver as many orgasms as your partner can stand.


Here are a few of the exercises he showed us…exercises you can use to get yourself oral sex ready.

  • The Invisible Toothpick

Work your tongue like you’re running it up and down an “Invisible Toothpick.”

Here’s a good basic technique to limber up your tongue.

Open your mouth wide, and picture a toothpick in there, propping your jaws open.

Keeping your tongue behind your teeth, move it up and down, touching the roof of your mouth with the tip when you do.

As you do this, you should be imagining your tongue running up and down the invisible toothpick.

This gets your tongue nice and limber, and also gives you practice making it into a pointed tip…good for hitting those sensitive areas, including her clitoris.

  • Open Wide

Here’s one to strengthen your jaw, and give it the stamina you need to please your woman for minutes, even hours on end.

Curl up your tongue, and tuck it as far back to the roof of your mouth as you can.

Then, holding your tongue in that position, open and close your mouth at a medium pace.

Start with fifteen times, and see how many you can do before your jaw starts to get stiff. The more often you do this, the longer you’ll be able to go.

  • The Cheerio Test

This is one of the most basic exercises you can do…but you’ll be amazed how much it strengthens your tongue.

The idea is simple. Put a Cheerio on the roof of your mouth, on the crest of that ridge behind your top teeth.

Without opening your mouth, hold the Cheerio in place with the tip of your tongue….

…and swallow without moving your tongue or the Cheerio.

Jeff recommends doing at least fifteen Cheerios a day. You’ll be astonished how this tones up your body’s most essential oral-sex muscle.

And to really strengthen that tongue…

  • Tongue Bench


    The “Tongue Bench”: Hold the spoon up using just your tongue, for a full three-count.

Basically, this is weightlifting for your tongue.

Put a spoon handle on the center of your tongue. Then, keeping the spoon steady, lift it with your tongue for a count of three.

Jeff recommends four reps of this tongue lift, three times a day. Stick to this regime, and your tongue will be primed and ready for oral.

Once he got us up to speed with these tongue-and-jaw exercises, the doctor moved on to special oral sex techniques.


Here’s a few of the best moves he gave us. Try these out with your partner. She’ll be very glad you did.

  •  Warming Her Up

Too many men, when going down on their partner, want to just dive right in and attack the clitoris.

What they don’t realize is that the clit is insanely sensitive… and if you don’t pace yourself with a proper warm-up, you could wear your partner out before you even really get started.

Instead of going at the clit first, start with a few long, slow licks up the inner lips of her vagina. Keep your tongue pointed, and don’t forget to use your fingers to stimulate her as well.

  •  Clit Tips

Once you’re ready to turn your attention to the clitoris, start by working your tongue slowly back and forth.

If that’s working for her, push back the “hood” of the clit with your lip. Point your tongue and start to work the underside of the clit with a medium-fast stroke.

Make sure your moves are keeping her moist, or what you’re doing might end up hurting her.

And don’t work your tongue too hard. You’re trying to stimulate the clit…not pound it into submission.

  •  Working the Sweet Spot

Once you’ve got a sense of where she likes your tongue going the best, you’re ready to bring it home with your most powerful clit-focused moves.

Gently suck her clit between your lips, keeping it erect for you. Then, start working your tongue in a fast back-and-forth motion, alternating this with slower, swirling licks.

Her moans and movement should give you a sense of when you’re hitting her best spot for pleasure…and guiding her to a crushing orgasm.

  •  Oral Penetration


    Your tongue and lip workouts will make it easy to pull off intense “Oral Penetration.”

One of the reasons we spent so much time preparing your tongue is to get you ready to work it inside your partner’s vagina.

Tongue penetration offers a number of pleasures most men don’t think about nearly enough.

A pointed, narrow tongue, darting back and forth in a swift motion just inside her, goes a long way to getting her ready for orgasm.

Tilting her hips the right way, while you work your tongue over the inner roof of her vagina, will get you in range of the G-spot… ground zero for the female orgasm.

And, if you suck her inner lips and clitoral hood into your mouth before you put your tongue in, this puts you in position for the deepest possible tongue penetration.

From here, you can work your tongue just like your penis (and you’ll be able to, if you’ve done your exercises), and deliver one mighty orgasm after another.


Now, these basic techniques can be adapted to any oral sex positions you and your partner prefer.

But I’ve gotten the best results with two different positions I’ve tried.

The first is a good basic position, one that’s comfortable no matter what shape you or your partner are in.

I call this one: “The Light Snack.


“The Light Snack”:  Easy, comfortable…and powerfully orgasmic.

For this position, your partner lies back on the bed, with her knees bent down over the edge of the mattress.

You kneel on the floor between her legs, and adjust her hips to give your lips and tongue good, open access to her vagina.

All the oral techniques I told you about work well in this position. It keeps your head and neck at a natural, comfortable angle, to allow you to do your thing for as long as you’re able.

If you need to go easy on your knees, feel free to use a pillow or towel to ease your strain. Another pillow under her buttocks or back can also improve your angle of approach.

So, if you conquer the Light Snack and want to step up your oral game, here’s a modified version I call (what else?)…”The Main Course.”


“The Main Course”:  Tougher to perform…but the payoff is huge.

This one will take a partner with a bit of strength and flexibility. But if she can manage it, the orgasms you’ll deliver will be more than worth it.

For this, your partner is again on her back on the bed. But instead of her legs hanging over the side, she bends her legs and rests her heels on the edge of the bed.

Then, she arches her back up, so her vagina is opened and tilted up towards you.

This position can be a bit tough on her neck, shoulders, and back if you’re not prepared.

I suggest supporting her shoulders and upper back with pillows, like a triangle-shaped specialty massage pillow.

The beauty of this position is, it provides you with a wide, elevated opening, that’s perfect for penetrating with your tongue.

And with the tongue exercises I gave you above, you’ll be able to get your tongue to a fine, pointed tip.

This’ll give you access to the clustered nerve endings right inside her vagina, as well as her pubococcygeus muscle… which reacts intensely during orgasm.

As long as her legs and back…and your tongue and jaw…can hold out, you can work the Main Course to give her orgasm after orgasm.

I took that oral sex class with Dr. Havens years ago, and I’ve never forgotten these lessons.

They’ve served me well, both on camera and with the women whose company I’ve enjoyed offscreen.

They’re easy to practice, easy to perform…and capable of delivering consistent, powerful, multiple orgasms.

If you try these oral sex practice and performance techniques with your partner, write me to let me know how you like them…

…and, more importantly, how she likes them.

If you do your homework, and really get your skills on point, every time you go down on your partner…

…she’ll be so satisfied, she’ll say, “Wow. You must have taken a class.”

For your health,

John Lawrence

P.S. Don’t forget to leave some comments below! I want to hear what you think about these ideas. Have you tried some of these techniques already? If so, how did they work? If you haven’t tried any of these yet, I’d love for you to try them out tonight and leave a comment below on how it worked for you.

How To Have Wild Monkey Sex


People sometimes think just because I’m a male enhancement specialist, sex must be the only thing I’m interested in.

It’s true. Sex, and how to improve it for you, is one of my passions.

But I’m just as big on the science of my supplements…and science in general.

The Discovery Channel, National Geographic, even those Disney nature documentaries…I can’t get enough.

And today I have a story for you that combines sex and science.

It was a biology lesson I’ll never forget.

A few weeks ago, I took a trip to the San Diego Zoo.

I went there with Julie, a woman I just started seeing.

Julie is sharp and funny. She’s a reader, which I love. She owns her own business, like me.

And there was something in her smile…a certain saucy sparkle in her eye…

I just knew she had a wild side.

On our first date, she mentioned how much she loved animals, so I thought this would be a treat for our third time out.

Plus, San Diego is a few hours’ drive from LA, where we both live. And I wanted something kinda big for our third date.

Because you know what they say about third dates…right?

So when we got to the zoo, Julie blew past the birds and the big cats.

She didn’t even care about the zoo’s famous giant pandas.

All she wanted to see was this one habitat on the Monkey Trail.

All Julie was interested in were the bonobo monkeys.

Bonobos come from the Congo River region of Africa. They’re our closest genetic relatives, along with chimpanzees (they live on the other side of the river from the bonobos).


Bonobo Monkeys: our closest genetic (and sexual) relative.

And as I learned from our day at the zoo…

These guys are basically the free-love swingers of the animal kingdom.

(Live Science once wrote an article about the bonobos called “Hippie Chimps.”)

The first thing I noticed was how mellow the bonobos seemed.

They were mostly just hanging around in the shade, eating, and playing.

This was a big difference from the chimpanzees we passed on our way to the bonobo habitat.

The chimps were hollering and growling. Two of them were fighting over some apples the zookeepers had given them.

A recent Live Science article about chimpanzees had a very different title than their bonobo piece.

Chimps, it said, are “Naturally Violent.”

And that violence extends to their sex lives.

If bonobo life is like a free-love commune (and I’ll tell you what I saw in a minute)…chimpanzee mating is a nastier version of what goes on in bars and nightclubs every weekend.

Males fight and literally kill other males for rights to a female.

Sometimes, they’ll beat or slap the female chimps to get sex from them.

And the sex they get is pretty much like I described before: one position, all the time.

Sex among chimpanzees is strictly to produce more chimps, or so a male can mark a female as “his.”

And nobody’s enjoying it.

All you have to do to see how different bonobo sex is from chimp sex is watch two bonobos say hello.


Bonobo Monkeys have a “unique” way of saying hello.

Julie and I saw two bonobos approach each other, hoot a couple of times…

and start rubbing each other’s crotches.

“Look,” Julie said with a smile. “They’re saying hi.”

(Scientist Vanessa Woods referenced this by calling her book about ape sex Bonobo Handshake.)

And this wasn’t about marking territory. That was easy to see when we watched the same two bonobos “say hi” to other apes the same way.

On the other side of their habitat, a few more bonobos were finishing up a hearty lunch of fruit, nuts, and eggs.

How did they burn off the lunchtime bloat?

With an orgy, of course.

Julie told me bonobos do this a lot.

Sometimes, it’s to celebrate a big event, like a new ape arriving in the habitat.

Sometimes, it’s exercise, like what we were watching.

And sometimes, they break into group sex…just because.

Julie and I spent almost our entire time at the zoo in front of the bonobo habitat.

It seemed like we saw some new sex behavior every five minutes.

We watched females “present” to males at the drop of a hat…

…and have sex with multiple males in the same short time.

We saw apes of both sexes masturbate, have oral sex, and enjoy frottage.

(Back in high school, we called that dry humping.)

And two of the bonobos did something we’re always told only humans do:

They had sex face to face.


Bonobos are the only other animal species (besides humans) who have sex face to face.

And it wasn’t just hard, detached pumping like you’d get from chimps.

These two were into each other.

They touched, held hands, even kissed.

And they made eye contact the whole time.

They even do that during “doggy-style.” The female looks back at the male as he goes to town.

The result of all this sexual openness and variety?

A community much more gentle, peaceful, and (from what I could see) happy than what you find with those brawling, grudge-fucking chimps.

And I can tell you for sure…

…watching this was having a strong effect on Julie.

Their freedom, their utter enjoyment of the sex they were having…

She kept letting out little sighs and coos.

Every time two (or more) of the apes coupled up, she moved a little closer to me.

And she held my hand the entire time we watched the two intimate, face-to-face ape lovers.

When we walked to the car after we left, Julie seemed almost like she’d just had sex herself.

She had her arm around my waist, and her hip kept bumping me as we walked.

“So,” I asked her, “you come see these guys a lot?”

“Not a lot,” she replied. “Just with the men I really like.”

Our third date ended the way a third date should end.

And, let me tell you, I picked up some valuable tips from those monkeys that day.

Sure, bonobos have face-to-face sex, just like us…but that’s definitely not all they do.

So be sure to try a range of different sex positions and activities.

To get you started, I’ve got a little variation on doggy-style for you to try.

It’s exciting and different enough that I think it might even put a smile on a chimp’s face.

It’s called…The Full Bonobo


The Full Bonobo Position allows for deep penetration.

It starts with a standard doggy-style position. She should keep her legs together.

Now, instead of thrusting away on your knees, in this position you throw your legs over her hips and plant your feet flat.

Your stance should be almost like a sumo wrestler’s.

From this position, you’ll be able to penetrate deeper than standard doggy-style allows.

It also keeps your hands free for all that touching and squeezing the bonobos like so much.

If getting in this stance is a little too much for you, you can try doing it with just one leg.

The other leg will brace you up on your knee, just like in standard doggy-style.

I call this variation The Half Bonobo.


The Half Bonobo allows you to brace yourself.

Now, I can tell you firsthand that these variations on your classic “Doggystyle” will definitely add some edge and excitement to your next sexual session. In fact, I put them to use right after Julie and I got home from the zoo.

And Julie was moved by the experience.

I could tell by how she tossed her hair…

…  how she grinned over her shoulder, and licked her lips when I entered her.

The way she leaned back into every thrust.

It’s a good thing it was deserted at the rest area where she and I stopped on the way home.

Of course, there’s a good chance the cars whipping by could still hear her.

The orgasm I gave her in this position made her scream like…


a wild animal.

Of course, I had some help from my male supplement, PHGH.

I designed this all-natural product with the same idea as the bonobos:

Sex, whenever, wherever, however you have it, should always deliver maximum pleasure.

PHGH is calibrated to deliver the most complete sexual experience of any supplement now available.

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Julie and I are headed back to the zoo this weekend.

There’s a new snake she’s dying to see.

I hope this weekend, when your partner tells you you’re like a wild animal…

You’ll know exactly what she means.

For your health,

John Lawrence

P.S. If you try out the Happy Bonobo, or any new sexual experiences, after reading this blog, leave a comment on here and let me know how it goes! I’m always happy to hear about your sex success stories.

The Kama Sutra: WORST Sex Advice In History?

As a man who’s committed to improving the quality of your sexual performance, I’m sure you’re familiar with history’s most infamous sex manual: The Kama Sutra.

Written in India in the 2nd century, this book catalogs 64 complex sex positions meant to enhance sexual pleasure and deepen the spiritual connection between lovers.

For over a thousand years, couples have attempted these positions in an effort to add variety and excitement to their sex lives…

Well, I’m here today to tell you why the Kama Sutra might be the WORST thing to ever happen to your sex life.

Let me explain…

Years ago, during my very first week in the adult film business, I was amazed by some of the sexual techniques I witnessed. I stared in disbelief at the wild, acrobatic positions other performers twisted themselves into.

Noticing how impressed I was, one of the other guys on set — a longtime adult-film veteran — took me aside.

“You know, you can pull these moves off, too,” he told me. “I’ll bring something in tomorrow to show you how it’s done.”


The Kama Sutra is full of bad advice, in my opinion.

The next day, he brought me an old dog-eared book. It was his personal copy of the Kama Sutra.

The positions the book described, many with strange names like “The Congress of the Cow,” were illustrated with old drawings of people that looked like pretzels joined at the pelvis.

But I was sure I’d found my magic bullet. These ancient Indian sex secrets were going to turn me into an adult film legend, I thought.

Well, by the end of two weeks trying these positions out, my thigh and calf muscles felt like they were on fire. My back was so sore that whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, I had to wear a heating pad.

The women weren’t too pleased with the results, either. Some of them complained of sore legs, sore backs…and, more important, most of them told me they could NOT reach orgasm in those difficult positions.

In my opinion, the bottom line is this: The Kama Sutra is full of bad advice and lousy, unrealistic, & uncomfortable sex positions.

And I’m not the only one who thinks so…

A study conducted by the National University of Mumbai in India, the country the Kama Sutra comes from, determined that about 24 of the book’s positions require special physical training to do correctly.

In fact, this research found that almost a third of the positions are basically physically impossible.

Today, I’ve selected four positions found in the Kama Sutra which I think are particularly impractical and definitely NOT pleasurable…

…and I’ve also come up with some of my own well-tested variations of these positions. These are techniques designed for you to use to help your woman achieve full-body, mind-blowing orgasms.


Kama Sutra Suspended Congress

“Suspended Congress” is downright dangerous.

In this position, you stand with your back braced against a wall. The idea is, you’re supposed to hold up her full weight in your hands! And from this position, she’s the one in control of the penetration, the tempo, and the intensity of the sex…not you.

The first problem is, this is a dangerous position for you because it poses a high risk for a back injury. It’s dangerous for her because if you lose your grip, she could fall…injuring her tailbone (not to mention the possibility that she’ll bend or even fracture your penis when she falls).

And more importantly, you’re just NOT going to be delivering any world-class orgasms in this position. The angle is all wrong, and your weight distribution will prevent you from delivering thrusts with any real power.


The Wall Banger

It’s a similar position, but with the woman’s back against the wall. You’re still holding her up with cupped hands, but you now have the flat surface of the wall to share the weight and lighten the load. This allows you to administer more powerful and much deeper thrusts from the strength of your legs.

From this position, you can elevate her legs more comfortably…giving you a clear vantage point to hit her “G-Spot.” It’s also easier for her to wrap her arms around your neck for extra support, and strengthen the emotional connection of face-to-face contact. Plus, this position allows you to control the speed and depth of the penetration, to properly pace and deliver a powerful climax for you both.


Kama Sutra Bridge

The “Bridge,” one of the Kama Sutra’s least pleasurable positions.

It’s hard to imagine a more uncomfortable and less pleasurable girl-on-top position than this one. It’s basically an advanced yoga pose…with a woman riding you.

With your feet flat on the floor, you’re supposed to bend backwards until your hands are braced on the floor behind you, arching your torso like a bridge.

I don’t have to tell you that this puts immense strain on your legs, arms, and back muscles. It also gives you no control over the penetration, which has to be managed by her while her entire body weight is on your pelvis.

It’s clearly dangerous and it’s definitely not pleasurable. Perhaps the biggest reason this Kama Sutra position is such a bad idea is because when you’re physically taxed like this, there’s no way to make a deep emotional connection with your woman…let alone actually enjoy yourself!


The Slow Rider

This is a woman-on-top, reverse-cowgirl position that provides the maximum support to your back, shoulders, and pelvis.

Sitting with your back against a sloping bed rest or pillow, bend your knees slightly upwards with your feet flat and legs slightly apart. Straddling your pelvis, she faces away from you, controlling her movements with her hands braced on the floor and her chest resting on your forelegs.

This position gives you strong support and allows for deep, rear-entry-style penetration. Hold onto her ass and lean back…you’ll be hitting her “Deep Spot” center from this angle which is a key trigger for an explosive female orgasm.


Kama Sutra Anvil

The Anvil is an absurd position.

The Kama Sutra praises this position for providing the deepest man-on-top penetration possible. On her back, your partner lifts her legs straight up, without bending them, and braces them against your shoulders. In the drawing to the right, the Kama Sutra has a couple making love on a horse but other versions have the man sitting on the ground.

Either way, this ridiculous position puts her back at an absurd and uncomfortable angle. It forces her legs straight which tends to quickly cramp her calves and wear out her thighs. And the fact is, any painful or even physically awkward position for her basically destroys the possibility of her having an orgasm.

And for you, “The Anvil” provides absolutely no way to actually create motion through thrust. This is honestly my least favorite position in the entire Kama Sutra. I believe it’s potentially dangerous and I’m glad to be able to call this out for what it is: ludicrous.


The Butterfly

This is a fantastic “standing” position for you…use a desk, table, or the bed itself to get her to the right level. The woman starts out in a similar position to “The Anvil,” but while on her back, she raises her buttocks a few inches up. You can hold them with your hands, or brace her lower back and upper buttocks with a pillow for extra support.

She again rests her legs against you, but bends her knees to let her calves rest on your shoulders. From this position, your penetration will be deep and satisfying without hitting her cervix or causing any discomfort. You’re also free to manually stimulate her clitoris, adding another powerful dimension to her orgasm.

Plus, you’ll have a better view of her body and the penetration itself, which keeps you in the game. After all, they say men get turned on by what they see. (Why do you think the Kama Sutra is almost always illustrated?)


Kama Sutra Balancing Act

“The Balancing Act”: not actually possible.

The Kama Sutra always seems to be at its craziest when the woman is on top. Many of the book’s female-superior positions push the boundaries of what’s believable, and this is a prime example.

For this, you’re on your back, with your legs bent up and open, feet off the ground. You open your legs wide enough for her to slip between them and get on top…but here’s the kicker: her legs are also bent up with her feet off the ground.

In many illustrations of this position, the woman’s not holding on to anything at all. Her legs are completely bent up with her knees almost touching her ears. Her entire weight’s being held up by your penis and nothing else. It’s honestly just not a viable position…and even if it was, it’s putting you in the least pleasurable angle of entry possible. This also seems like a high-risk position for a potentially serious, penis-damaging injury.


The French Dip

In this variation,  your woman is still on top…but, unlike the Kama Sutra version, this position doesn’t require you to defy the laws of physics.

For this, you’re both seated and facing each other. You cross your legs, and she gets on top with her legs wrapped around your waist.  Hold onto her ass or lower back, and simply get into a natural rhythm with her. Here, both of you are in a good position to give as much as you get. You’re solidly hitting her “G-Spot” and her breasts are front and center, right where you want them.

Also, it’s perhaps the most intimate of all of the positions we’ve discussed here. The two of you are face-to-face. Use this opportunity to make deep eye contact, and communicate with her emotionally and spiritually. It’s an effective and romantic route to mutual orgasm.

I’m positive these body-friendly alternatives to the Kama Sutra will allow you to explore and find new paths to pleasure without any risk of strain or discomfort. Sex is all about pleasure, and these positions are designed to provide the maximum for both of you.

I’m confident that — combined with the added stamina, increased erection strength, and intensified sex drive provided by my premier, all-natural men’s formula, PHGH — these positions can take your performance to higher levels both physically and emotionally.

You can learn more about PHGH and its unique formula right here.

For your health,

John Lawrence

P.S. And don’t forget to write to me at to let me know all about your experiences with these great new positions.

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques

The whole foundation of this blog — and, in fact, the cornerstone of my work — was built around one central idea:

It’s not only possible, but it’s absolutely essential to improve your sexual performance…to get better at sex.

I operate on the premise that there are indeed higher levels of sex…and that men who take it seriously can learn new skills (at any age) and reach those advanced levels.

I know the following to be true…

→ By learning proven techniques you can create deeper, more intense, more pleasurable, and more explosive orgasms in women.

→ By mastering complex and advanced positions you can target & stimulate female “pleasure zones” that neither of you may even have been aware of.

→ By using stamina “tricks” you can increase your endurance and perform for marathon sexual sessions.

→ By supplementing your diet with potent herbs & roots (such as those used in the formula for PHGH), you can strengthen the hardness, size, and thickness of your erections to penetrate her deeper and more completely than she’s ever experienced.

And I know these techniques are effective because I hear from men everyday who have studied them, practiced them, and successfully put them to use.

These men have indeed become better at sex, and their wives & girlfriends have been exposed to new kinds of orgasms they’d previously never felt during sexual penetration.

That brings me to the reason I’m writing today…

No matter how advanced you become at sexual penetration — which does offer the most intense and arguably the most addictive kinds of orgasms for women — one must never forget the importance of another kind of female stimulation: cunnilingus, or oral sex.

Why is it so important? A quick look at the data gives you some crucial insight:

  • According the Kinsey Institute: 70-80% of women have trouble reaching orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone.
  • In The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior (1993): 18% of women report a preference for oral sex to achieve orgasm.
  • A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (Vol. 7) indicates that: “women are more likely to orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts and when oral sex is included.”

Now, keep in mind that many men fail to take their sexual performance seriously…and I’d argue that my students are far above those averages when it comes to making their women climax during sex.

However, this topic is something I’ve decided to address in detail because there are, in fact, advanced techniques for performing oral sex just as there are for penetrative sex.

And up until now, it’s something I’ve wrongfully neglected.

Well, this article will correct that mistake for the record…and now I’m excited to bring you:


1. Detailed “how-to” diagrams for three unique oral sex techniques

2. Two illustrated charts with manual stimulation (fingering) techniques

3. A new “Advanced Sex Position” designed specifically for oral sex [fully illustrated]

4. The biology behind the various cunnilingus-driven female orgasms

5. Specific, step-by-step instructions on motion, tempo, & intensity

Let’s get started…

What’s going to surprise you is that the first step to Advanced Oral Sex Mastery doesn’t involve your mouth at all…in fact, it’s a fingering technique that’s designed specifically to arouse her for oral sex.

During your late-phase foreplay — when she’s fully undressed — you’re going begin moving from her breasts to her stomach with your mouth, kissing her intensely and creating anticipation for what’s next. She’ll think you’re going to start right in with the cunnilingus…and that’s the whole idea! But when you arrive at her vagina, you’re going to stop the kissing and do some work with your hands.

ElectricSlideFingering Technique #1:
The Electric Slide (Fig. A)

Here, I’d like you to refer to Figure A. Once you’re sure she’s very wet from the foreplay, you’re going to reach down with your dominant hand. Grab the outer lips of her vagina, her Labia majora, between your thumb and your forefinger. Using her natural lubrication, squeeze the lip between your fingers — gently at first, then with more pressure — and slide up and down. Do this on both sides of the vagina, and also try it on her inner lips, her Labia minora.

Eventually you’ll be doing this motion, slowly, on both sides at the same time. Most likely she’s never had anyone do this before, so this motion may surprise her at first…but very quickly she’ll realize what she’s been missing. “The Electric Slide” will send bolts of pleasure through the nerve endings at the tips of her labia, and she’ll want you to keep sliding and sliding…

FullShammyFingering Technique #2:
The Full Shammy (Fig. B)

Right now, refer to Figure B and take a moment to get your dominant hand into that shape. Extend your middle & ring fingers, pull back your forefinger, and tilt your pinky downwards. As you get this hand ready, reach around with your other hand and firmly hold onto her ass (OR, reach up and tweak one of her nipples). 

Then, insert your middle & ring fingers into her vagina and position your thumb right on her clitoris. Begin thrusting gently. As you thrust, pull your two fingers back toward you in a “come here” motion. You’ll feel the inside wall of her vagina and you’ll be hitting her G-Spot. Rub circles on her clitoris with your thumb while you do this. Finally, aim your pinky finger for her anus…and if she’s into it, gently start probing it.

When “The Full Shammy” is fully executed, you’re hitting three of the major pleasure zones at once: the clitoris, the G-Spot, and the anus. It’s this layering effect that produces the most intense female orgasms.

Now she’s finally ready to get some oral sex.

Here, then are my Top 3 Oral Sex Techniques, the best patterns of tongue movement during cunnilingus.

Sidewinder1) The Sidewinder (Fig. C)

This is a great starting technique because it allows you to move fast yet gentle. If you “attack” with too much pressure right away, many women can become overstimulated to the point where it’s almost uncomfortable for them (the clitoris has over 6,000 nerve endings!). So, when you approach her vagina, the 1st oral step should be a delicate side-to-side motion, as in (Fig. C).

You’re going to focus on her clitoris, but again, the key is very light pressure. You can flick your tongue side to side rather quickly…especially if you keep the range of motion small One of the principal rules of performing oral sex is that rhythm matters. Pick a tempo and stick with it — keep it light, fast, and steady. You’ll feel her body shift suddenly to a more intense state…her legs will stiffen, her breathing will become faster, and she’ll start lubricating even more. This means she’s relaxed enough to let a full orgasm wash over her…but there are a couple more steps before you’ll allow her to get there.

CircleOfEcstasy2) The Circle of Ecstasy (Fig. D)

Essentially, as you can see in the diagram, this is a technique of rotation. You can choose to move in either a clockwise or a counter-clockwise motion — whatever is more comfortable for you. Transition from “The Sidewinder” by staying on the clitoris, but intensify the pressure slightly. Flick the clitoris with your tongue and apply a gentle suction.

Then, begin the circular movement of your tongue. At first, locate it directly over the clitoris…but then start to expand outward, making bigger and bigger circles. Move your mouth down toward the lower part of the vagina, and continue the circular pattern over different areas. Again, try to keep the rhythm consistent…women need a constant speed so they can focus on their orgasm. Changing tempo when they’re approaching orgasm can completely throw them off course — and when this happens, they have to “start over.” Escalate the pressure and increase the speed very gradually as you feel her getting closer to orgasm.

SwedishMethod3) The Swedish Method (Fig. E)

[The Swedish Method? Let me explain. Many years ago I dated a girl from Stockholm named Astrid…she loved oral sex almost more than any other woman I’ve ever known. It was with her that I developed this whole series of techniques in sequence and I thought it was a fitting name for this closing move.]

Start with your tongue at the top of her vagina, right on the clitoris. Then, as you see in Fig. E, lick downward all the way to the bottom — a very long, slow stroke — and right back up to the top again…and repeat. Use a steady and slow rhythm, and apply quite of bit of pressure (depending on her sensitivity). You’ll feel tempted to “shorten” the  motion, but resist that urge and make sure every stroke goes the full length from the clit all the way down, almost to the anus. [NOTE: If it feels right, go all the way TO the anus.]

As you become more confident with this pattern, start experimenting: suck on the clitoris, penetrate into her labia with your tongue while keeping the up & down motion going.

When you feel that she’s very close to orgasm, this is where you bring your fingers back into play. Focus on her clitoris with your mouth, and use your dominant hand to create the shape in (Fig. F)…it’s very simple and it’s designed to penetrate. She’ll be literally soaking wet by now and if you’ve done everything right, your fingers will slide in effortlessly. Start thrusting and pull back on your fingers to hit her G-Spot again. Keep your tongue in motion on her clit, and sync the thrusts of your hand with the tempo of your tongue.

At this point, she’s getting the “layered effect” in full force: clitoral, G-Spot, labia sensation, and anal stimulation. The key is, keep your tempo consistent & steady and DON’T STOP. She will reach an explosive, body-shaking orgasm at this point…the only question is: how many orgasms will she have?

Finally, I’ve promised you a new sex position and it’s the final detail to this comprehensive system of Advanced Oral Sex.

One of the biggest obstacles to performing the kind of long-form oral sex techniques I’ve outlined in this system is this:

It’s often very hard to get into a comfortable position that doesn’t put tremendous strain on your neck while you’re performing oral sex…especially for the longer periods of time it takes to get through all the phases in this advanced system.

That’s why I’ve come up with this unique position for oral sex…I’m calling it: THE WORKMAN’S BENCH.

Why? Because this position allows you to sit down, get comfortable, and just go to work on her vagina for an extended period of time without straining your neck.

Take a look at the diagram…it’s fairly self-explanatory but I think you’ll agree this position puts you in the perfect spot to really try all the techniques I’ve outlined in this system.WorkmansBench

“The Workman’s Bench” can be the kitchen table, a desk, a counter-top…anywhere she can sit down and you can pull up a chair and just get to work! In fact, if your bed is elevated — as most are — she can sit on the edge of the bed and you can sit on the floor with your legs underneath…or perhaps use a pillow to elevate yourself to the correct level.

Use your hands to hold onto her ass at first, but ultimately I’ve found that most women will end up wrapping their legs around you at some point. As long as you can breathe, you’ll be able to enjoy the session…and your neck won’t be warped for weeks afterwards.

The rewards of putting in this kind of “work” with your girl are never-ending.

First of all, you get to experience her having a truly body-moving, mind-blowing, overwhelming orgasm…at least once, and most likely more than once, as woman are highly multi-orgasmic during oral sex.

And additionally, she’s likely to be so grateful for the experience you’ve given her that she’ll repay the favor.

Great sex is its own reward, as you know…and this “Multi-Layered” System of Advanced Oral Sex can honestly take your sexual relationship to a deeper level.

I thank you for you time and hope you’ve enjoyed this report.

As always, please leave me a comment on this blog below to let me know what you think after you’ve actually put these techniques to use. You can also email me at and I’ll do my best to reply directly to each of your messages.

Write me with questions about this or any other of my Advanced Sex Positions, write me with concerns you may be having in your sex life or relationship, questions about PHGH or any of my other premium male enhancement supplements, or really just write to me about anything you want to discuss.

For Your Health,

John Lawrence

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