Sometimes it’s hard to put your finger on exactly what it is, because confidence can’t be measured…it can only be felt.
And the thing is, women have a finely-tuned confidence detector. They seem to know almost instinctively when you’re feeling it and when you’re not.
The real question is this: why is self-confidence so important?
Why? Because confidence has a HUGE affect on your sexual performance.
In fact, I’d go so far as to say that having high self-confidence accounts for at least 50% of your sexual prowess.
The other half is totally physical, as you’d expect, and the truth is: if your body is not functioning physically, it doesn’t matter how much self-esteem you have…you’ll still never get hard enough to have truly phenomenal sex.
So, the first order of business is to make sure your body is capable of getting truly rock-solid erections…and that’s where diet, exercise, and traditional herbs & roots come into play.
But I get a lot of letters from guys who tell me they can get full erections sometimes, just not every time…and especially not when the pressure’s on, which is when it really counts.
If you can get full-strength erections sometimes – but not when it counts – that means you’re having performance problems.
Performance problems are caused by a lack of sexual self-confidence.
The good news is, there are a few things you can actually DO about your self-esteem issues. The purpose of this blog is to give you some specific, simple, and proven techniques to help you boost your self-confidence.
So, let’s get to the Top 10 Easiest Ways To Boost Your Sexual Self-Confidence:
#10) Stop Procrastinating
Pick something you’ve been putting off for awhile, and just do it! This is an instant confidence boost. You’ll feel great about yourself as soon as the task is done because you’ll have a feeling of accomplishment. It’s amazing how this works for even very simple or small things. It could be something like oiling a squeaky door, or just calling a family member you haven’t spoken to in awhile.
#9) Stand Up Straight
Research has suggested that people with good posture have significantly more confidence than those who slouch. And it’s easy to see why this is true…standing up straight just projects the right attitude. Be aware of your posture when you’re in key situations, and especially when you’re with women. Here’s how to do it: imagine a rope is pulling your head upward, and allow your body to follow that motion. Easy, but effective.
#8) Organize Your Work/Personal Space
This is all about being prepared. When your desk is organized, you can find what you need easily and quickly. When you prepare for what you know is coming down the line, you can face everything with confidence. You’ll know you’re ready. Keep your car organized, your desk, your office, and your bedroom organized and you’ll feel prepared for whatever comes your way.
Listen, self-confidence is all in your mind. If you believe something is going to work, it most likely will work. Along these lines, if you have a good luck charm that’s been with you when things have gone right…by all means, keep it with you! The traditional cultures I’ve visited when sourcing the ingredients for PHGH all believe in the power of symbols, and it definitely works for them. Dig into your own background: no matter if you’re Irish, Italian, Indian, or Indonesian – you’ll find something from your own culture that works.
#6) Stay Well-Groomed & Well-Dressed
The old saying is true: when you look good, you feel good. For an easy confidence boost, treat yourself right…buy some new jeans, maybe some new sneakers, and get a classic haircut. Keep your facial hair trimmed neatly and always make sure you’ve got the musk of a gentleman. Looking good goes a long way with women. It also speaks volumes to your business associates and firends. One other thing: learn how to take a compliment sincerely. It lets people know that you know what they’re saying about you is true.
#5) Get Pumped Up
Remember the classic scene from “Taxi Driver” where Robert De Niro looks in the mirror and says, “You talkin’ to me?” What his character is doing here is simply pumping himself up for action. Believe it or not, this actually works. This is something I do myself before important events and right before I’m about to go to bed with a beautiful woman. Another way to accomplish this same thing is to channel a moment in your life when you felt genuinely powerful and focus on it for 10 minutes before you walk into an important or stressful situation.
#4) Speak Slowly
Now, this seems self-explanatory…but there’s actually some science behind it. Psychological studies have shown that when people speak slowly and deliberately, as opposed to urgently and intensely, others remember what they’re saying better and are left with a better overall impression. Women, in particular, associate a man who chooses his words carefully with strength and confidence…and they’re attracted to this quality.
#3) Change (or Create) A Small Habit
This is a big one, because it can result in a tremendous boost to your self-esteem very quickly. You’re going to choose one small thing, make it a habit, and stick to it for a month. This can mean getting rid of a negative habit (like quitting smoking) or developing a new positive one: waking up 10 minutes earlier everyday, writing down every good idea you have, or eating more green vegetables. The key is, make your goals achievable.
#2) Write A Journal
I know some of you might not like the idea of writing at first, but what this is about is getting to know yourself. Having confidence requires knowing what you stand for & sticking up for your principles. For me, writing has focused my idea of exactly who I am and it’s made everything clearer in my mind. Write a journal entry at least once a week about anything you choose. Over time, certain patterns will emerge and you will have a better sense of who you are as a man. Better still would be creating your own blog, like this one, so you can share your beliefs with the world.
#1) Fake It Til You Make It
I’m going to end with this one because I know it really works. This ties into the “Pump Yourself Up” theory of #5 as well as several other of these tips. Confidence is all in your mind. If you look the part, dress the part, and act the role…eventually you’ll become the role you’re playing. Even if you just go through the motions and pretend you’ve got as much confidence as John Travolta in “Saturday Night Fever,” ultimately what will happen is that you’ll become authentically self-confident.
The last thing I want to leave you with is this:
Other people are most likely less confident than you are.
Remember, most people are so busy thinking about themselves, their own problems and personal hang-ups, that they don’t even notice the things you may think of as your own “flaws.”
If you project confidence, women will be able to detect it.
Start putting some of these ideas to work in your own life and then write in and let me know how it’s helped you get back to your personal best.
P.S. For more info on how to keep the physical component of your sexual performance in top shape, check out the PHGH website right HERE.